In this article of pure opinion, if you promise me not to insult myself in the comments, I wanted to have some fun writing about the more social function of Facebook, the one for which it is possible to get to know people trying to encourage real encounters or virtual relationships ; in a word, on how to pick up online. Facebook, as a social network, collects thoughts and words of all kinds, often also vulgar, immoral, praising something unrewarding and so on.
Many times you write on Facebook only to let off steam and to make the goliardia worthy of the worst Boldi-De Sica films and behind the keyboard it is easy to express yourself without shyness.
You can surely use this site as a tool to approach new boys and girls and to establish romantic relationships but it must be said immediately, Facebook was not created for dating in a romantic key.
There are three reasons why Facebook cannot be considered a dating site like Meetic:
1) People sign up for a thousand reasons among which one of these could be the search for a new partner but, most likely, it is not.
2) What you write on Facebook can become public and visible to everyone even if you don't want to.
3) Try an approach with too much audacity or with a little insistence, it could become stalking which, at high levels, also constitutes a crime.
However, the fact remains that Facebook is free (partner search sites are very expensive), there are real photos and, in general, it is also possible to recognize who is available to meet new people and who is not, to find women or men single and to deepen relationships.
I am sure that today many couples have met or have deepened their knowledge up to a close online relationship, starting from Facebook.
On Facebook the easiest thing is the first contact .
By organizing your profile in a sincere way, with a beautiful photograph, describing yourself as a bright, active, worldly type without exaggerating, a lover of travel and adventures, moderately sensitive for some social cause (such as animals or environment) and with a beautiful photo, real but genuine, it shouldn't be difficult to have friendship accepted.
On Facebook lately people have become more prudent to accept strangers indiscriminately but, in general, it is still almost considered impolite to refuse friendship to a friend in common with another.
In another article I have already written what are the ways to find new friends on Facebook, girls or boys to meet, with common interests and how to find people on the internet.
After adding a few girls or boys who seem, from the profile, normal and potentially pleasant people, perhaps who live in their own city or at least in the vicinity, it is necessary to investigate if they are likely to meet new people .
Without unnecessary espionage attempts on private profiles, this, in general, can be understood with a little intuition, from what they write in their own state, from general information, from the type of friendships they have and their quantity.
Be wary of those who have more than a thousand friends (it means that they accept everyone and play to collect friendships), those who put too much risqué photos, those who do not have their own images and those who use fake or fantasy names.
Having at least one friend in common is essential, especially because you can ask him for some additional information and because at least you have a plausible excuse.
To create a first contact, you can try to send a private message or, better yet, wait for it to appear online to exchange a few jokes in chat.
Absolutely not to do is to write messages with sexual allusions or discounted comments on the photos.
If you have to make contact with someone with whom you have no connection, open up with something fun, without looking like a pervert and try to start a conversation about something that is of mutual interest.
If you try to conquer a specific person, the question is certainly more complicated and the best thing is to make "friends" a little contact with this woman or this man before approaching the goal.
An important thing to consider is that you risk the cancellation and ban from Facebook if you make too many requests for friendship in a short time, so it is absolutely recommended to have patience and build your relationships without haste.
Writing on the person's bulletin board with a light and non-invasive compliment is not wrong but it must be borne in mind that it will be read by all his friends .
If you notice a mutual sympathy with a person of the opposite sex, it is not convenient to advertise this new, tender friendship and, at least at the beginning, make it public on your bulletin board.
the problem is not so much the possible insecurity of making relations public or even a fact of superstition.
The side effect of such a popular and popular online tool like Faacebook is that you cannot predict the behavior of others who, out of jealousy, out of spite or because they have nothing better to do, can create misunderstandings and misunderstandings or they can come to threats and insults.
Cases of fake profiles are not at all rare, behind which perhaps the girl next door hides trying to steal private information.
To conclude this controversial article and answer the question I asked myself in the title of this speech, I say that Facebook can become an exceptional place to meet new people with common interests, to create a virtual relationship or even to find a real partner,
But you have to be very careful and behave as if you were in a real club, not everyone is there to pick up, not everyone is available to joke about malicious jokes and you risk public fools.
